I have heard it said that we live in a throw away society.
I mean, we use paper plates, plastic cups, plastic-ware, cardboard boxes, disposable diapers... the list goes on and on. The question is, do we have this same mentality when it comes to our relationships.
I don't understand how people who have been together longer than they were apart can just end it. Now I am not advocating or even suggesting staying with someone who is abusive. What I am saying is, if you are fighting over things like money, sex, and children, you should realize that this is perfectly normal. If you ever meet a couple who doesn't fight... they are great deceivers!
Marriage is not easy, but nor is life. If you go into it with the mind set that you will just get a divorce if it doesn't work out, then maybe you shouldn't get married. It is hard on everyone around you when you end a marriage. Your friends, family, and most of all children suffer from your decisions to just throw it away.
Maybe I am just a hopeful romantic, hopeful that everyone can have a life-long relationship with someone they call their best friend. Maybe I am old-fashion or out-dated. I don't know. As a wedding planner I find great joy in helping two people who love each other deeply celebrate their special day, but it puts a damper on my joy when I realize that the rate of divorce is higher than ever and that at least half of every wedding I plan will end far too soon.
What is your opinion on this? Did you go into your marriage with the idea that if it don't work, you will just get a divorce? Do you find my ideals to be old-fashion and irrelevant in today's world? Please be honest... tell me what you think.